Granddaddy Chose A Successful Lifestyle!

I’m sure everyone has heard of that old saying that the early bird gets the worm, right? It sounds simple enough… Get up early and we will get whatever we want, right? Well, the early bird thing might not be that simple… In thinking about this, here is another question I want us to consider. Is this old saying about the early bird really only about taking what we want or may it also be about something else too that many of us might be missing, without even noticing it? Hmm…

Well, guess what? This early bird saying is probably also about something more than just getting up early to get want we want. I imagine that it’s not all about beating others out and getting first dibs on what we want. Neither is this first-comer about getting up early once in a while… The first one to arrive is more about creating a lifestyle in which it’s normal to get up early. It’s a lifestyle in which we are not just trying to ‘get’ things, but instead we are trying to ‘do’ things. It is about consistently -getting to do- extra work that will eventually turn us into high quality people who are doers and givers with many opportunities before us, rather than getters and takers who are shortsighted with only short-term goals, and small opportunities in front of them.

In addition, I would also have to say that the early bird saying even goes further than just getting up early every day to do extra work. The early bird saying also touches on constant and never-ending deliberate improvement. Many of my regular readers and students already know that I call this concept of never-ending self-improvement by the acronym of C.A.N.D.I.- Constant And Never-ending Deliberate Improvement.

Now teens, go learn, lead, and lay the way to a better world for all of us. Remember Granddaddy was successful because of the lifestyle that he chose to live. We too can choose this winning lifestyle. And once again, thanks in advance for all that you do, and all that you will do…



Benefits Of Following The Paleo Diet Lifestyle

The paleo diet really is more of a lifestyle than a true diet. Its main goal is a healthy living, not direct weight loss. However, this is for many, a side effect of making the required eating habit changes to one’s daily diet. There are many benefits to living the paleo way and we will discuss that further in this very article. If you are interested in living a happier, more mentally alert and healthier life, then please keep reading.

The automatic result of changing eating habits to the foods our Paleolithic ancestors ate is, we no longer get bombarded with the complex and dangerous chemicals that are commonly added to the most popular foods in today’s grocery stores. It is believed that our bodies have not evolved to properly process many of these chemicals. On the other hand, many of these chemical are plain old Dangerous to our bodies and mental capacity.

Eating real food, not processed foods, will make a noticeable and positive change to your mental and physical health. As stated earlier, this is not technically a diet plan, more of a lifestyle based around making healthy choices to fuel your body with the best wholesome foods possible. The results for many do include weight loss, but please consider the points below when considering what the paleo diet really has to offer to you and anybody who takes the proper steps to make changes in their own life.

Food Coloring May Be Pretty, But…

Did you know many of the most common foods (not found on the paleo diet food list) have food coloring added to them to make them look appetizing? This alone does not sound dangerous, but the actual chemicals to obtain these colors are very problematic. In the 1970’s the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) banned red dye no. 2 because it was found that in high doses it would actually cause cancer in laboratory rats. The yellow no. 5 dye was found to increase hyperactivity in children by a British study in 2007 and to worsen asthma symptoms by studies that go back to the 1950’s.

Naturally Sweet, Just Makes Sense

High fructose corn syrup has received a lot of negative media in the past few years and for good reason. This sweetener that is derived from corn, an alternative to natural sugar from sugar cane, has some major health concerns connected to it. This sweetener is found in soft drinks, junk food and just about anything that is sweet and carries a decent shelf like at the grocery store. It has been connected to the raise of obesity in America and the body does not metabolize it in the same way as sugar based sweeteners.

Mercury contaminants are found in it and this has yet to be regulated by the FDA. The companies that use this in their foods have spent millions to “educate” the public on its safety, yet the extraction process is still secret and unknown to all. This additive is almost exclusively used in poor quality “food like substances”, so that should be enough for you to know you need to stay away from it.

Salty &Healthy Don’t Belong In The Same Sentence

Americans love salt. There I said it. Many people love to put extra salt on foods that are already doused with butter (which normally already contains salt) to bring out this familiar taste. There are many dangers of high sodium diets. The most apparent is the hypertension or high blood pressure (that leads to heart issues) that is associated with too much salt in one’s diet. In mature adults, high salt intake can lead to premature cognitive decline. Salt also changes the way your kidneys function, not allowing it to regulate the release of water to the body as normal and can lead to kidney stones. Salt can even lead to a skin condition called edema. This condition causes swelling of the extremities.

Living The Paleo Life

There are many other reasons that the paleo diet has become one of the most popular ways to change your health. The reasons discussed here are just the tip of the iceberg. The real magic starts when you realize that removing the things that have a negative impact on your health are magnified by adding more of the healthy vitamins and nutrients found in the foods that are paleo approved. Changing your lifestyle takes time and of course some work, but hopefully you have found enough reasons here that you find the determination to move forward with some healthy changes starting today!



Living the Mind-Body Lifestyle

When I’m talking to mind-body newbies, they often ask me if I like living the mind-body  lifestyle . They are usually worried that they’ll have to torture themselves for life with something un-fun and limiting. Happily, the mind-body  lifestyle  is quite the opposite! Today’s article is an example of what it’s like to live this way, so that you can come sit in my living room with me and experience how I stay pain-free.

It goes like this: All day long, every day, my body is letting me know important things. How is it telling me? Via emotions. How do I know I’m having emotions? Via body sensations. So, my first step is to stay clued in to what my body and emotions are telling me. If I miss an emotional clue, my body will let me know with a little tension or some other small signal. All I have to do is notice these signals, and I can easily stay healthy and comfortable in my body. It’s only if I were to ignore them that I might get a hint of pain.

Today is a perfect example of what it’s like to use the mind-body maintenance plan.

During a session with a client this morning, I noticed I was having trouble speaking. I don’t have a sore throat, I am not sick, and yet I was losing my voice. On my next call of the day, my colleagues noticed this and asked me if I had a cold.

“No,” I answered, “and I’m not exactly sure what my body is trying to tell me.”

There was silence while we all sat with that statement. It had the ring of a big fat lie. (No judgment here – it’s quite normal that we all lie to ourselves frequently. It’s actually quite good to find the lie, because then you can easily figure out what’s really going on.)

I sighed. “Ok, so I do know what my body is telling me. I am not up for coaching right now, and I have a really full schedule because I’ve been out of town and will also be gone next week.”

My colleague said, “Why not reschedule your sessions?”

My insides cringed. My mind panicked momentarily. And then, there it was. The THOUGHT behind this whole thing.

“I will be disappointing them,” I answered. “They need their sessions, and I won’t be here for them.”

Which is one of the old patterns I have that leads me away from taking care of myself and straight into physical issues. I’ve spent many a year trying not to disappoint people, ignoring my own body/self, and ending up flattened as a result. This pattern does not serve me well.

The truth is that I must take care of myself in order to be of any help to any client. In fact, I might even disappoint my clients more by showing up and not being able to really do my job. My wise inner being knew that it was time to step back from coaching and take care of me, but I was afraid to follow this wise instruction. So, even though I knew in my heart what I truly needed, I plowed forward with coaching.

My brilliant body let me know that I was off track. It took away my voice.

Isn’t it fascinating how our minds can yank us away from doing what is best for ourselves? Because my mind was afraid of disappointing clients, I was ignoring my soul’s request for some quiet rest time. I was ignoring the emotional message, so my body amped up the volume a bit with the voice removal.

Hopefully you can see the process. As I noticed what was going on with myself, I uncovered a belief system that was causing me to work directly against what I really needed. As soon as I saw that, I was able to decide what was truly best for me, and choose whether or not to act on that belief. I listened to my body, and therefore we are on good terms. I won’t get sick, I won’t have pain – I don’t need the alarm to ring any louder than it just did.

So my body and I struck a deal. I would finish out today, but cancel clients for tomorrow and take some serious rest and self-nurturing time. As soon as I made that deal, I felt an uplifting, lightening sensation in my chest. My voice got clearer. I felt the resonance of alignment with myself.

What I like about this is that there’s no fear involved. There’s no imprisonment. It’s not like following some hideously boring diet for the rest of my life. It’s freeing, actually, to always be checking in with my body and listening to its messages. Even if I need a slight alarm system warning here and there, it’s nothing scary. It’s just something to notice, learn from, and take action on so I can keep creating health.

I’ve noticed the more I listen to the messages, the quieter they are. The alarms don’t need to be very loud anymore. Most of the time, I hear the whisper of my emotional guidance system and don’t need any major body warnings. I used to get a full-on chest cold, a headache, a foot pain, or some other alarm. I love that today the body warning didn’t even have to create any discomfort for me to hear it. Nothing in my body hurts, but I still get the message, loud and clear. This is cause for celebration!

You, too, can arrive at this point where you listen to what your body is saying, day in and day out. It’s not a bad thing at all – in fact, it’s pretty dang cool to have such a helpful GPS system with which to navigate through life. I always know what’s best for me, what will lead me to health and happiness, and what my next step is. There’s a sense of confidence in that knowledge. Strength. Peace. And of course – health.



Top 10 Anais Nin Works

A controversial author of her times whose work was largely ignored at the time of publication, Anais Nin gained wide spread acceptance and acclaim in the 1960s when she garnered acceptance as one of the most prolific female writers who had dared to dabble in the elusive genre of female eroticism. Nin’s work primarily included her diaries that bespeak of a woman’s journey of self discovery through the various stages of her life.

She penned down her experiences of over 30 years, from 1931 to 1974 in her memoirs which today serve as an inspiration for women across the world who are trying to break out of stereotypical gender roles and biases.

Nin’s artistic parental background and her eventual bohemian lifestyle gave her the conviction to touch upon a side of feminine sensuality which was often considered off limits and even taboo. Through her works, she has explored various issues that women deal with in their lives including incest. Her literary journey began with the publication of ‘D H Lawrence: An Unprofessional Study”, which she remarkably wrote in just 16 days. The book was not officially published in the US and as a result she sent copies of it to Gotham Book Mart to be sold for a dollar a piece; thus began her journey to literary stardom.

While Nin has several journals and books to her credit her most widely acclaimed and well received books to date include:

D.H Lawrence: An Unprofessional Study

This was Nin’s first published work which probably whet her appetite for the controversial books that she found fame in. The book was her tribute to her literary hero DH Lawrence. It was a study of some of the author’s popular work. By the time the book went into publication; most critics had shunned Lawrence’s work. Not only was it unusual for Nin to choose his work for her book but also the fact that she was a woman who appreciated DH Lawrence’s writing which was often laced with sexual content was equally surprising

Collages

This was Nin’s last published novel which was notable in its shift from her regular style. This novel had none of the familiar characters that Nin’s fans were expecting. Also, as the name suggests, the book had almost two dozen important characters and there was quite a bit of geographical movement which was absent in her other work.

Winter of Artifice

This was Nin’s second published novels. It originally went into publication in Paris and gives a candid review of Nin’s incestuous relationship with her father.

Under a Glass Bell

Claimed to be one of the finest works from the author; the book was the first of several to be printed in Nin’s own press. A collection of short stories that touched upon several facets of life from writing journals to late abortions etc; many critics regard it as her finest work. Under a glass bell finally got Nin the recognition that she deserved.

House of Incest

This was Nin’s first fictional book. Although most readers expected to read a graphical description of Nin’s liaisons with her lovers, this book revolved around the central character trying to escape from a dream state that she finds herself trapped in.

Delta of Venus

A book with a strong incline towards the exploration of sexuality and eroticism, it contains several short stories with some of the characters finding their way into more than one story. The book was written for a person identified simply as the “collector” for his private consumption.

Little Birds

Although the book was written in 1940 when she was commissioned by the ‘Collector” along with other writers, this work from Nin was published two years after her death. The book includes 13 short stories that explore various sexual themes from lesbianism to pedophilia.

Cities of the Interior

This was a collection of 5 novels from Anais Nin; Ladders of Fire, the Four Chambered Heart, Children of the Albatross, Seduction of the Minotaur and Spy in the House of Love. Of the 5 books in this series, the Four Chambered Heart was autobiographical in nature while the Spy in the House of Love revolved around the journey of Sabina who is considered to be an alter ego of the author.

The Diary of Anais Nin

This is a published version of Nin’s private diary; the entries in the manuscript started when Nin was just 11 and she continued writing in it till her death. The diaries are available in seven volumes while the expurgated versions of the diaries contain more sexually graphic material than the original published manuscript.

Henry and June: From A Journal of Love: the Unexpurgated Diary of Anaïs Nin (1931-1932)

This is a book which was published in 1986 which is based upon her unpublished diaries. It has a few similarities to her published diaries but also quite a few differences. It focuses on her very passionate affair with Henry Miller and his wife June Miller.

Anais Nin was an interesting character. The above works highlight some interesting works by a great writer.



The Real Happiness in Life

What is happiness? Where do we find it? How do we obtain it? I readily concede that it’s important to have sufficient money for our needs, but beyond that, money has little to do with true happiness.

Happiness is the most intangible state we are seeking in our whole lives. In our pursuit of real happiness in life, we experienced too much pain and sacrifices.There are even times when we lose our own source of happiness. But, there are only a few who knew that real happiness lies within ourselves.

Happiness does not always require success, prosperity or attainment. Real happiness ever has its root in unselfishness-its blossom in love of some kind. The present is an age of pleasure-seeking, and men are losing their sanity in the mad rush for sensations that do but excite and disappoint. In this day of counterfeits, adulterations, and base imitations, the devil is busier than he has ever been in the course of human history, in the manufacture of pleasures, both old and new; and these he offers for sale in most attractive fashion, falsely labeled, ‘Happiness.

What is happiness then? How does it differ from mere pleasure? Happiness leaves no bad aftertaste, it is followed by no depressing reaction; it calls for no repentance, brings no regret, entails no remorse; pleasure too often makes necessary repentance, contrition, and suffering; and, if indulged to the extreme, it brings degradation and destruction.

True happiness is lived over and over again in memory, always with a renewal of the original good; a moment of unholy pleasure may leave a barbed sting, which, like a thorn in the flesh, is an ever-present source of anguish. Happiness is not akin with levity, nor is it one with light-minded mirth.

It seems happiness is something we all desire but few find. Is it a career? Is happiness in our ‘stuff’? Looking for happiness in things will never satisfy. In the end, we find ourselves just looking further.

Just don’t take yourself too seriously. True perfection is really accepting your imperfections. In this way, you’re not struggling with or rejecting yourself. Make friends with yourself. Never beat yourself down because of too many emotional issues. It is natural to feel everything, whatever it may be.

Try to meditate. There is an overwhelming amount of research showing how meditation changes the circuits in the part of the brain associated with contentment and happiness and stimulates the “feel-good” factor. Meditating on love and kindness makes you much, much happier! And the only way to know this is to try it, so don’t hesitate. It has been proven that even as little as 10 minutes of meditation a day can lead to physical changes in the brain that improve concentration and focus, calm the nervous system, and help you to become more kind and compassionate, and even more humorous.

Let go of negativity. Learn to forgive and forget. See every challenge as an opportunity for further growth. Express gratitude for what you have. Don’t worry about the little things. Take plenty of “worry vacations” where you train your mind not to worry for a certain length of time.

See the humor in life and in our experiences. Take life less seriously and learn to laugh at yourself. Serve and be kind to others. Treat everyone with kindness. Speak well of others. Truly listen to others. Support them without bringing yourself into it. Be careful with your words. Speak gentler, kinder, and wiser. Respect others and their free will. Put your trust in others and be trusted in return.

Work as part of a whole. See others as partners in your efforts. Practice generosity and giving without expecting anything in return. Live in the present. Don’t replay negative events or worry about the future. Accept and celebrate impermanence. Be grateful for your life, for each moment of every day.

Observe yourself in the moment. Choose a healthy lifestyle. Keep a daily routine. Wake up at the same time every morning, preferably early. Get enough sleep. Don’t overeat and try to practice healthy self-control. Exercise daily to the point of sweating.

Laugh more. Laughter is the best medicine. Practice deep breathing and yoga. The body and mind are connected. Take care of your spirit. Strive to always learn new things. Get creative.

Be inwardly free. Live minimally and simply. Often extravagant living brings more stress, not more satisfaction. De-clutter your home to de-clutter your mind. Feel good in your own home. Make it your sanctuary by keeping it clean, organized, and uplifting. Go without certain things you think you need.



Type 2 Diabetes – Having This Form of Diabetes Is a Lifestyle Choice

You have many choices to make during your lifetime. When it comes to your health, the choices you make are inevitably far-reaching. There could be severe consequences should you carry out the wrong decisions. Never forget gambling with your health is gambling with your future.

With Type 2 diabetes, the situation is no different. Although this is something you may not want to hear, this form of diabetes is a lifestyle choice from its onset all the way through development. If you are diagnosed, it is because you allowed it to thrive in your body, even if it was unknown to you. Once diagnosed and you are beginning to suffer from its effects, this could be because you have allowed it to remain untreated.

Failing to act is a choice in itself, especially when you have a gut feeling compelling you to change. It is well-known, change is not always easy. In the case of reversing Type 2 diabetes, it is perhaps one of the most difficult tasks one could ever face. If you a Type 2 diabetic, the choice is yours. Whether you attempt to change or not, you will deal with the results of your decision.

Without a doubt, it is better to not have to deal with the complications of having high and unstable blood sugar. There is no telling how long it would take for unhealthy blood sugar readings to take a toll on your body. At first, it might be tingling or numbness in your extremities. Or it could be your vision begins to fail. Knock on wood, but a fatal heart attack or stroke are also realistic possibilities.

Even if you were fortunate to avoid the worst-case scenarios, you would still be likely to suffer some debilitating effects. What is more, the mere presence of high blood sugar is enough to shorten your lifespan.

For better or worse, having Type 2 diabetes is a lifestyle choice once you have a diagnosis.

On a positive note, not all decisions in regards to Type 2 diabetes involve grim circumstances. If you are motivated, you can undo the disease. You might not be able to reverse some of the damage already done. But, there is good news in the reports of those who have successfully recovered. You can stop many side effects in their tracks, and regenerate damaged organs and systems. More importantly, you can regain good health. It is infinitely a better alternative to being ill and at risk of an untimely death.

Clearly, Type 2 diabetics have some decisions to make. Will you make the right choices?



Hotwifing Benefits – Three Reasons Hotwifes Have Better Marriages

Odd as it may seem the hotwifing benefits you’ll experience if you can get your wife to take the plunge into the cuckolding lifestyle far outweigh the risks and disadvantages (with one proviso: hotwiving is for couples whose relationship is good but they want to improve it; if your relationship is already sexless and broken, then hotwiving will make things a lot worse).

Hotwifing Benefits

  1. Your relationship will improve. You’ll experience more physical and emotional intimacy and you’ll end up having better sex, having it more often and being more adventurous when you do it. I know I speak for other husbands of hotwifes when I say there’s nothing quite so fast to turn me on as when my own hotwife, Josselyn, uses her lover’s name while she’s making love to me.
  2. Your wife will bloom. This is a hard one to explain and describe, but an easy one to spot. Women love to be found attractive; what’s more they love to be the woman of a strong and confident man. And by being a hotwife, she’s getting the best of both worlds — her lovers build her self-esteem because they find her attractive (you ‘have’ to because you’re her husband, right?); and obviously you must be a strong and confident man to let her go out and spread her wings, so to speak. You’ll notice how she becomes more aware of herself, more sexually adventurous, and starts to take even more pride in her appearance.
  3. Your own self-esteem will skyrocket. Again, this is a tough one to explain but is something every man I know whose wives go down the hotwifing path. For one thing, you become even more proud of your wife as she does start to bloom and your feelings of love and devotion for her increase. It’s strange, but even though most hotwives husbands have their wives’ permission to sleep with other women, few actually do. Why? Because for man much of the pleasure is in seeing his wife enjoying her own pleasure (and by this I don’t just mean actually watching her with another man — I mean just seeing her doing through life as a newly self-aware and liberated woman).

My wife, Josselyn, and I have been in the hotwife lifestyle for the past 7 years and apart from a few hiccoughs it’s been a lot of fun.

And now we’d like to share our knowledge and experience so you don’t have to make the mistakes we made in the past – because we’ve made them for you.



Affiliate Marketing Could Make Your Lifestyle Awesome

Almost anything we see and possess today has commercial value – from cellular phone, tablet and clothes, and even to the tiny hair clip used by little girls on their hair. And most often, consumers buy these products after seeing them on TV, heard on radio or read in newspapers. In short, advertisement has played a great role in influencing the people’s choice over a particular product.

In today’s tech-savvy world, the internet has considerably played a major role in the people’s lives. Majority are now making money through online work while others are selling their products through the internet.

In selling online products, the seller should have a very good affiliate marketing strategy to be successful in online business.

As with traditional selling, affiliate marketing is not easy. But it’s not too difficult either. All you need are commitment, determination and patience. Patience is actually the best trait needed in internet marketing – patience to still go on despite being repeatedly rejected by clients.

Simply put, internet marketing, which is also called online marketing, is to market or advertise your products or services over the internet, either in your own blog or website, through a blog or site owned by others, through emails or through social media.

Doing internet marketing through your own website or blog is much cheaper since you don’t have to pay for commissions to agents, unlike when you market your products through other person’s site where you pay certain commission for every product referred by the site owner and bought by the clients.

Other than websites, you can also market your products by sending emails to prospective clients and also through social media like YouTube, Facebook, Twitter and other sites.

When doing internet marketing for the first time, it helps if you have your own website where you can market your products or services. And the best way to attract prospective clients to your site is to make sure the contents of your website are informative, free from typographical errors and are full of attractive images. Most often, websites with good layout and colorful contents are frequently visited by readers. Putting a “killer headline” in your site all the more attracts clients to go through what you offer.

Posting a typo-free content with killer headline also works well when doing internet marketing through social media. And don’t forget to put your contact details where the readers can leave comments or ask for more information about your products or services.

Internet marketing is definitely the in-thing today. And you can be successful in this field if you follow a unique internet marketing strategy that others don’t have.



Male Chastity Guide – A Short But Comprehensive Introduction to the Lifestyle

In this short but comprehensive male chastity guide I want to cover some of the most pressing and important points about the lifestyle from the perspective of someone who’s new to it.

The reason I want to do this now is when I first started along this journey, I often found myself lost, confused, bewildered and even a little frightened by the mass of conflicting, contradictory, and, in my opinion harmful information out there.

So in this brief guide, I’ll just sum up the main points and cover them in enough detail to get you started.

Start at the Beginning

Before we begin, it’s important to realise having a chastity husband is nothing new, not “wrong” and certainly nothing for you to be afraid of, whether you’re a man who’s coming to terms with his desires (and maybe even struggling with them), or a woman whose man has confessed his interests to her and perhaps desire for male chastity to you and you’re looking for information.

First, let’s look at what we usually mean when we talk about chastity. In everyday life we tend to treat chastity and celibacy as being the same. For our purposes, though, in this male chastity guide we’ll assume a big difference:

Chastity: what we normally mean is chastity and orgasm denial. So what we’re not talking about is simply not having sex or engaging in sexual activity. Far from it: couples who embrace the male chastity lifestyle find themselves having not only having increased sexual activity, but actually enjoying it far more than they believed possible.

What we’re talking about is the woman taking control of her man’s orgasm and not allowing him to have on unless she says he can, even if you’re getting him to please you in other ways not involving making love, or even if you’re making love, not allowing him to orgasm.

As you go through this male chastity guide, you’ll see why a man would want this, why you’d want to give it to him, and the benefits to both of you.

Celibacy, on the other hand, is where you simply don’t have sexual activity, perhaps because you’re single, or you’re unable to have sexual relations for whatever reason, or you’ve taken a vow of celibacy or perhaps some other reason. Interestingly, someone who’s celibate may well have more orgasms than someone who’s embracing the male chastity lifestyle, simply because a celibate man can masturbate, whereas a chaste male can’t.

I’ll say more about celibacy in a moment and why if this you’re celibate but in a relationship, male chastity might not be right for you.

Whom Is Male Chastity For?

I’ll go out on a limb here and say almost any fundamentally sound relationship will benefit from male chastity, and that includes gay couples (perhaps surprisingly!). The reasons are both complex and simple at the same time, as you’ll discover in this male chastity guide.

In fact I’ll edge out even further on the limb and claim if you’re an average healthy woman or gay man and you enjoy a healthy sex-life (or have in the past) and you’re not ridiculously prudish about sex or painfully shy, then… you’ve almost certainly already engaged in male chastity play.

Why do I say this?

Because male chastity lies on a continuum, from brief orgasm denial and teasing at one end of the scale, all the way to permanent orgasm denial at the other (I’ll say a little about this later in this brief male chastity guide). And most men and women, if not every man and woman has at some time delighted in teasing their partner at some point by delaying orgasm even if only for a few minutes.

And if you’ve done that… then… congratulations!

You’ve already experienced male chastity.

And you both loved it, didn’t you? Even if he complained in the most delicious way at the time.

Whom Is Male Chastity NOT For?

If you’re in a relationship and you really don’t like each other (or even if one of you doesn’t like the other) and you’re living in mutual celibacy through choice because you just can’t stand the thought of him touching you (it usually is women who feel this way, sadly), then other than the comments I make here, this male chastity guide won’t help you.

If you’re in this situation and your man has come to you with the idea of living a male chastity lifestyle and you find your heart leaping for joy because you can see it as a great way of ensuring you never have to have any kind of sexual contact with him ever again… then I think you’re making a big mistake.

Because he’s doing this out of a desire to have more sexual contact with you, not less!

And if you’re a man reading this hoping it’s going to help rekindle the ashes of a burned out relationship, the same comments apply: the chances are it’s simply not going to work. On the contrary, it’s going to hurt you both a lot more in the long run.

If you can see yourself and your own relationship in the above few paragraphs, then I suggest you stop reading this male chastity guide and instead think seriously about proper relationship counselling, and ultimately be prepared to end it so you can both move on with your lives.

Why Would Anyone Embrace the Male Chastity Lifestyle?

Ultimately this simple male chastity guide is about pointing you in the right direction to uncover the strategies and techniques aimed at dramatically improving your relationship by vastly improving the affection you feel for one another, making you grow even closer together, and allowing you to nurture a far richer, deeper and more loving understanding of each other’s sexuality than you have now.

Assuming your underlying relationship is strong and your love for one another remains undiminished, even if the fires of passion are not now burning so bright as they once did, male chastity is definitely something to consider at least trying.

How to Start with Male Chastity

There is only one purpose to male chastity: and that is to improve your relationship and thereby improve your entire life.

And for that reason it’s important to realise no matter how you approach it, what you do or how you choose to implement the male chastity lifestyle, if it’s right for you both than that’s all that matters.

You might think that’s an odd thing for me to say, but remember one of the reasons for writing this male chastity guide was there is so little good information about that’s not tainted with nonsense, fantasy and downright bad ideas.

Now, how to start with male chastity is… to start at the very beginning.

There is a temptation to dive right in at the deep-end by rushing out and buying a chastity device and hoping you can snap it shut and remain chaste for a month or two. And you will indeed read accounts like that all over the Internet.

And they’re lies.

No, I can’t prove it and you are free to believe them if you wish, but no one who has genuine real-life experience with male chastity is going to give them the slightest bit of credibility.

The reasons we know they’re just fantasy are many and varied, but please, for now in this basic male chastity guide, just take it from me male chastity is like any other aspect of your relationship: you don’t want to rush into it and at best be disappointed and at worst unnecessarily spoil something wonderful you wouldn’t have spoiled if you’d just taken your time.

Now, I’m going to assume at this point, you’re both sitting reading this male chastity guide together or at least you’re both at a point where you’re talking about the male chastity lifestyle as something you’re willing to explore.

There are many easy, comfortable and safe ways to broach the subject to your partner whether you’re a man or a woman, but one very simple way I share with you in another article is to use male chastity stories.

First, begin with some gentle chastity play. Agree beforehand you expect him to please you any way he likes, but make it clear you won’t allow him to make love to you and he’ll have to use his imagination.

Massage is a good place to start, and then remember he has fingers and a tongue (use your imagination, too… this is a male chastity guide not a sex manual!).

The first few times it might be difficult because it’s new territory for both of you. Promise him you’ll make love to him again in the morning and allow him release if he does a good job tonight. That way he’s not got too long to wait and is unlikely to get sulky (he won’t mean to, but it’s new for him, too).

After a few times you can lengthen the time you’re going to make him wait a little: perhaps the next night, or the weekend.

If this is working well and you both feel comfortable with the next stage, you can invest in a simple chastity device. Now, there are literally hundreds of devices on the market and you can pay anything from £90 for a basic plastic device to over £1,000 for a bespoke made-to-measure high-tech stainless-steel chastity belt.

My advice in this male chastity guide is to go for something simple and affordable, like the plastic devices and see how you get on. In our experience simple play, the plastic device was fine but it didn’t suit us at all for long-term wear. Having said that, some people find them suitable and effective for long-term use.

All you can do is see how it is for you.

Just don’t get your hopes up too much too quickly.

Even if the device is comfortable you might find when he gets really turned on it is extremely uncomfortable and painful for him, and while some women claim that’s a fitting “punishment”, that’s not my kind of thing – this is a male chastity guide, not a guide for Dominatrixes! I want to deny his orgasm and have him wanting me like mad not in pain from constricted, sore and swollen testicles!

At some point, you’re going to find you want to progress a little. Now, there are no hard and fast rules about this and it’s so important to find what suits you and your partner rather than trying to conform to what so many people in the “scene” will say you “should” do. Believe me, some can get quite unpleasant if you don’t live your life and treat your husband or lover how they think he ought to be treated.

Ultimately you’ll reach a level at which you feel comfortable, and to some extent that’s going to dictate the kind of device you end up with. In general in this male chastity guide I’d say get the most expensive device or belt you can afford because in my experience there’s nothing quite so disappointing as a device you have to take off because it’s unsuitable for wearing for the length of time you want him to wear it for!

Two Final Pieces of Advice

As I mentioned before, you’ll eventually find out what works best for you both and that’s the only thing you should worry about.

However, there are two points I’ll make in this male chastity guide which I consider to be “universals”, in that everyone I’ve ever spoken to who has successfully incorporated male chastity into their relationship.

First, remember this is supposed to be fun for both of you. I know there’s an element of teasing in it but you need to be the judge of when his “no” means “yes”, and when “no” really does mean “no”.

The second is you must be firm. Yes, it seems contradictory to what I’ve just said but you must remember he has asked for this, or he’s at least consented to it if the idea’s your own.

The truth is, he wants you to be firm with him. He might want to orgasm but he craves your denial of it.

This can’t be stressed enough in any male chastity guide.

For example, my husband, John, whom I keep in strict male chastity and orgasm denial, sometimes for months on end, will sometimes beg me not to let him orgasm because the feeling of being “in the zone” is so incredibly profound.

More to the point, when it becomes too much and he begs for release, if I don’t let him (I never do if he’s begging for it… that’s one of my rules), then while he moans and groans at the time… afterwards he thanks me for being so strong and cruel.

In the early days I would give in… and he always told me afterwards I shouldn’t have done. Men!

To Sum Up

The male chastity lifestyle is exciting, pleasurable and extremely rewarding for you and your partner.

But like any lifestyle, it takes some thought and work to get it exactly right. Most important of all is it’s your life and you should do things your way.



Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Air Fryer – A Healthy Way To Deep Fry Your Fries

Eating fresh salads, sandwiches and choosing healthy food can be easy for some but difficult for many of us. The thought of not being able to eat your favorite wings or beloved French fries is a nightmare especially for those who have lived all their lives eating deep fried foods. For people who still want their deep fried food but wish to have a healthier lifestyle, they now have the option to do so, thanks to recent innovations such as the air fryer.

Air Fryer

The air fryer is just like your everyday kitchen appliance with one difference – it uses hot air to cook food. Instead of traditionally cooking up food by using oil, the fryer uses hot air, up to about 200 Celsius to cook the food. Latest versions of the fryer allow one to adjust the temperature ensuring precise and even cooking.

Advantages and Disadvantages

One of the advantages of air fryers is that it makes the cooked food healthier. By not using oil to heat and cook the food, it lessens the fat % of the meal. This is not the case with conventional fryers where the use of oil increases the saturated fat content and for some who like it double fried, the percentage of fat also doubles. Another advantage of using air fryers is that modern ones have an exhaust system in place which filters the excess air out. Since it is filtered, it is friendly to the environment.

Although the equipment is ideal for the healthy lifestyle, one disadvantage with using an air fryer is that since air is used to cook food, it is important not to overload the cooking area as this would result to uneven cooking. Thicker cuts of meat might also need additional cooking time to fully cook. Price may also be an issue as some models available in the market today are expensive.

Purchasing Your Fryer

If you do consider purchasing an air fryer, then you should take a look at the features of the fryer that you are purchasing. Price depends on the features of the equipment so some models maybe a bit cheaper than others. Features that you should look for include an automatic timer, a touch screen surface for easy navigation or an integrated dial, easy cleaning and space efficiency. Some machines can cook tons of food perfectly while others do not. If you always have a large group then opt for a bigger machine.